My Real Short Story: A Mouse and Its Owner

   'A mouse and its owner,' haaaahahaha laugh out loud or mouth open wide, maybe open wide mouth as wide as your head haaaahahaha when you found it out:D just for entertainment.
   Then, let's move on to the post:

   Today, I went to buy a computer mouse in the same place where I've bought one few months ago. That one has worked not properly: sometimes I'd have to click multiple times and the right click would work as left click. And from today itself both of the click would close the tab when click on them to see another site. I could not remember how long I have been using, though I think it has not passed six month.
   I asked for the same old kind which I've bought to the shop owner. He ordered someone, maybe his assistant to show me and he did. I remember 6 month guarantee was given to the product but I asked him about it again, and he told me the same thing.
   I told him the previous one which I bought has broken, and the writing in the bottom has been erased. He argued that it would not go off as it is written with permanent marker and show me other mouse which bear the marks of guarantee. 'Maybe its gone because I rub it too much on blankets,' I thought but maybe his permanent marker was not really permanent. 'After all, nothing on earth is permanent and everlasting. Even if they don't break, they will break one day or be broken in the end. Not only that but burned out.' 

   The shop owner told me to take the costlier one, 'Its cover is better,' and ordered his assistant to show me that too.
   'No money,' I replied and told him I'd take the cheaper one, in fact it was the cheapest one.
   'Leave it, he is not to take it anyway,' he told it to his assistant. They were just before me, table in between and there was also one other man in the chair behind me on the right, before a computer.

   Since I told him to write the marks of guarantee in the box because I don't want it to be erased in the process of using it, and I know he would not replace that without his mark.
   At last he told me that if he write it (the date I purchase it) in the box who know other broken mouse would be placed in it for guarantee claim. But, he end up writing the date in two place in the bottom and told his assistant to put it back in its box.

   When the assistant of the shop dropped the mouse from few inches while trying to put back in the box, the shop owner scolded him with a raised voice.
   Then, the shop keeper took them from the boy and try to put the mouse back to the box himself. He dropped the mouse too, its even more worse. lol.
   I did not laugh. I told the shop owner, 'He can also make a mistake, you can also make a mistake. Therefore, it is necessary to learn how to talk to one another with love.'

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Solution on How to End Crime Against Women

   Since I am on the website (and I love good cause), I got an email invitation, with the title 'I Am Rising', to sign a pledge in change.org. It was a good cause for worldwide women, since violence against women is a global issue, regardless of the countries or places where the incidences are high.

   The gang rape of a young woman in New Delhi which trigger great protests was probably the starting point for persistent demands for the end to violence against women especially in India.
   Such protest and demands for the end of such immoral, cruel and evil acts should be done where and whenever they are needed in the world. It should also be done with perseverance until the crime against women ends unless other means are found.

   But we got to know gender based threats, abuse, sexual harassment, molestation and rape, female genital mutations, sex-selective abortion, dowry and other related violence will simply not come to an end by just protests and campaigns against it. Because it will not remove discrimination and lack of respect towards women.
   The solution to end crime against women is not just protests or campaigns but change. So, here let us learn more about its solution, and share or contribute that which is lacking wherever possible and let us make them come true. Because crime against women is a threat to humanity.

   Crime against women can only be decreased and come to an end but  by acquiring the right knowledge, finding the right solution and taking the right steps. The right knowledge is to knowing the reason.
   I believe we know very well that it is discrimination and disrespect that give birth to crime against women in many forms. That's the main reason behind crime or violence against women.
   Therefore, to end all kinds of crimes against women, discrimination and disrespect against women must be removed.

   To end discrimination and lack of respect against women, injustice practices or customs and laws which are made out of superiority feelings and mentality must be removed, regardless of when and where they were established and what status had they earned in a culture, tradition or customs.
   Superiority or injustice practices and laws against women that represses their freedom of life and choice are many. Example, female genital mutation, forced prostitution, veil (as mandatory for women while it is not for men), forced marriage, dowry, enslavement, etc.
   Such injustice practices and laws do also resulted in not just inferior but more careless attitude and treatment against women and leads to, at worse, force treatment/violence, including force marriage and sex, suicide and  female infanticides.
   To end injustice practices and laws, superiority feelings against women must be removed. 
   No one is superior before righteous law, each and every human rights law would prove it well. 

   It should be well understood no man can be born without a woman, and vice versa, thus there is no such thing as superior even in nature. None of them can come to existence alone. Supportive to one another is required by both or there is no birth and no existence for both. Then, why should we question on who should act as superior? Why should there be injustice law and practice?

   Spreading such understanding education, or such kind of knowledge for understanding would do well, considering all humans have a sound mind.
   And one of the need of solution to end crime against women and all other crime is nothing more but a law of justice executed by law abiding souls .

   Below are few injustice practices and laws explained for understanding. It is necessary to bring harmony for humanity everywhere:    Dowry
   Demanding or expecting dowry as a necessary or customary act on marriage is injustice, and it is one of the main reasons of discrimination and lack of respect against women in India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nepal, Afghanistan and other countries where dowry related violence or crime is prevalent.
   It is likely that, since men of the past were so haughty upon women they introduce dowry system as custom.

   Gifts, not dowry, given to the groom and his family by the bride's family was an old practice, and many people could have done it with a hope that their daughter may be treated well and may not be divorced. That was likely one of the reason that gave birth to evil feelings of superiority against women and the idea of dowry system.
   Therefore, gifts should never be given with any hope for the safety of the bride, instead one should place more confidence upon ones own daughter, the bride but not in money, gifts, the groom and his family and whatever.

   And it should never be considered a dishonor to the family even if the groom divorces the bride, parents must always open doors for their children. Who knows where they have gone and what they have faced with or without choice? Anyway, women are the other half of men and they can absolutely remarry as men do.
   Gifts are acceptable but demanding dowry as a customary law on marriage is completely a foolish, greedy and evil act. But such kind of money, goods or gifts should be returned upon divorce.

   If dowry or its related acts are considered necessary the groom must moved in to and serve the bride and her family according to the bride, because it is more like groom's price or a comfort given to the groom's family.
   We know very well that anything which a customer bought in the market have become the customer's own property or hired one. If such way or example or both are illogical, then, dowry is totally illogical or false and inhumane practice.

   If none want the logical process mentioned no one should love and advocate for illogical and unnecessary practices, and no one should even brainwash others by cleverly manipulating or misinterpreting false and inhumane practices. After all, no matter whether it's arrange marriage, marriage should happen with and in love.

   Since dowry system has caused and increased dowry death in great numbers and it is illogical as explained, it is certain that not all kinds of dowry related violence but dowry itself is a crime as it has also been passed as crime by some, if not all the concerning governments and people.

   If a groom wanted his bride to go and live with him it is much much more appropriated that he give some gifts to the bride's family as a formal comfort for a decrease in a family member not the other way around unless he is willing and going to go and live with the girl wherever she wish.

   Equality and Arrange Marriage
   Crime against women is not yet eradicated because women are not given equality but treated as an inferior being. And where dowry is practiced, the inequality and treatment of inferiority against women  results in restraining their freedom and arranging their marriage by those who restrain their freedom.

   To end violence against women including dowry custom where it is prevalent, women must be given equality, and arrange marriage should not be a necessary law, custom or mandatory unless love is the law. They should be given such a humane freedom that they can decide when, where and who to marry by themselves unless they chose for arrange marriage. Therefore, arrange marriage should only exist as an option not as a law.
   Arrange marriage can exist with the consideration of importance but since dowry system is deeply rooted in the minds of those who practice it, arrange marriage needs to be noticed as unnecessary for human practice as long as dowry concerns. That's the only way to give equality to women where arrange marriage, and the only way to save them from dowry related violence.

   Sex Selective Abortion
   Though there have been prohibition act for dowry and women's rights activists campaigning for the end of dowry related violence, it is not successful because the women who will benefit from it does not take it to heart as their responsibility.
   Since dowry system practice does not end, dowry related violence continue to exist. That system give financial concern to the people who practice it, and that is one of the continuous reasons that leads to female infanticides or sex selective abortion among them.
   There are other reasons for female infanticides where dowry is not practiced but if it continues to be done, regardless of where sex selective abortion is practiced, it will absolutely extremely increase more violence against women and also between men.

   Veil and Female Genital Mutation
   Injustice practices and laws like dowry, veil, FGM, etc. are imposed on women if it can't be made acceptable through clever manipulation of it or brainwashed, and they barely fight against it unto death because they were also brain washed to think that they are weaker than men. Just because of that they continue to bear the pain of injustice practices and laws made by clever and selfish men.
   Yes, such kind of practices and laws are made for women in particular out of jealousy and selfishness, in other words one sided view without caring or without even a little thought of love for their equality, freedom and rights. When men live as they wish, why should not women live as they wish too, they are human beings too and they need to be free. As men would not want any injustice practices and laws against them, women do not want them too.
   No women were born with a veil, in fact nobody is born with clothes but we wear them according to our choice. Therefore, any kinds of veil, even dress which is imposed on women, or which is made as law and brainwashing others to follow that law is a foolish and inhumane practice. Let women decide what to wear, when and where, according to their choice.
   Female genital mutation is a cruel act, it is a crime unless women consented for it. Those who practice such things are foolish and they mean that they do not accept Nature's way of creation or originality, in other words God's creation. These things should also be ended at the earliest, women should also know that no one can impose any such kinds of cruel and painful law unless they wanted it.
   Therefore, let all the women come together as one to break free from their chain and become normal human, as equal as men, their counterpart.
   After all, the secret of strength and success for the whole is unity as the saying, 'unity is strength.'

   Unless women consented to wear veil or undergo genital mutation, it should never be done. We should know it is a crime, even if it is not considered a crime, a new law should be made so that everyone knows that forcing women or any other person is a crime.

   United Women Organization
   This is the most important and necessary thing to be done by women if they really want to end all the violence and crime which we don't think as crime or injustice acts, practice and laws against them. They should know ending such thing would be their own benefit, and they should be the first and most active people to fight for such end. After all, he wants success fight for his own success, no one can achieve success for him.
   Anyway, we should know that our trouble is our own, and no one would fight for us as much as we can fight for ourselves, instead everyone would rather go against us, hope for our down fall and even works toward it.

   By observing at the past we learn that women are no less weaker nor inferior than men. Its just that they are equal to men but different in one or the other or both ways, same but opposite in physical creation. There are occasion where they can do and even do what men cannot do. First, it was a woman (Eve) and followed by man (Adam) by choice (as he loved woman more than God) who took humanity to this imperfect world from the perfect world Eden, she was no less a soul than man to take a man or others where she had or wanted to go. A woman was also the one who saved Pilate and made innocent (which we will see in the judgement, in Heaven before God the Father of you and me) from joining and defiling his hands to shed the blood and take the life of Jesus Christ the omni innocent and perfect in all ways. It is also said that behind great men there are great women. Now, its time to lead back men to the new world which is coming.
   The consideration of women as weaker soul and feeling of superiority against them is just a foolish, lame and one sided observation or view.
   Therefore, it is not what men do upon them that only matters but their confidence on equality and power they possess. They lost that for a while and that is why evil men easily impose on or brainwash them with injustice practices and laws. But now its time to have that confidence again. They become the victim of men's cruel feeling of superiority against women that resulted in discrimination, lack of respect against women, discriminative or injustice laws and crime and violence against them.

   There are women's rights activist, there are also law against violence but we know very well that they are not so successful in ending not only all the crime but also violence against women in some way.
   Therefore, truly the most important thing and only hope for the end of crime against women and for equality is a world wide organization of united women. Women's or human rights activist should assist the organization in bringing justice for all kinds of women, even find out the criminal who commit a crime against any particular or whatever member of the united women organization and give it to justice.

   The organization leaders should be established wherever women resides, let it be villages, towns, cites and even spaces. It should be world wide, every girls and women must be registered in it or they must register themselves. In any place where there are enough people to make up a group of leaders, they must select them out every year to lead their fellow women of the particular area.
   There should be country, town, city, national, regional, international level leaders. Women meetings should be held every week in every villages, towns, cities etc. for education on law, support and comfort and assurance of security and support. Even their husband or whoever really wanted to assist them may join them too. Let them even put signs that bear their name in their outer wall so that whoever walk before it may see and realize that they are equal to men and respect them.
   Good connections should be established between organizations of countries and towns, towns and cities, countries and countries. Any particular member should be able to contact any other organization of any area whenever she finds that her area leaders does not help, want or avoid to help her. This is necessary for any particular member who would face a problem with her area leaders, and also necessary for the higher area leaders so that they can find out the evil leaders or member and remove or judge them immediately.

   Unless women of the world unite and make practices and laws according to them since no men do, they will never find justice. Because superiority feelings against and lack of respect against women had penetrate its root so deep that only united women organization that brings together all the women of every villages, towns, cities, and nations, of the world can only do and bring out justice for themselves. That's the hope and solution, and the way of freedom from crimes against women for women, and men who don't like such crimes.
   Death toll of domestic violence, dowry death toll and any other death toll against women will rapidly fall even lower than men and will also decreased men death toll. It is really shocking to know that dowry death toll only in India alone India alone is more than 95000, accounting for more than 30% of crime against women in the country. It is really shocking to know that billions of female suffered violence every year, millions every month. But that crime against women can be ended by billions of women, all the women. Every woman just need to come together, stand together for and take their rights and equality as human beings. After all, no man can live without woman because they cannot do everything without them, then why not show men your worth, capability and power.

   This organization is the only way women can and will collect information on crime done against them and work to execute justice faster than any organization will do for women. It will even end FGM, SSA, dowry, its related violence and any crime against women and make arrange marriage as option. It will end the attitude of disdain, hatred or inferiority for women, establish respect, equality and freedom for themselves and take the world to new age.
   Those things are what men cannot do but women, we know that well as it has been in men's hands but it had never come to pass in the whole world.
   That is the only way to end superiority feelings and change negative mental attitudes against women. It must be ended because the consideration of women as weaker soul and feeling of superiority upon them give birth to injustice practices and laws, and that increase discrimination and lack of respect toward women. Then, that leads to all kinds of unwanted treatment and crime and violence against women.

   What a great leap would it be for women to live in a ground where men have treaded and already made old and worn out, to walk in the ground of equality. I can't imagine. Yes, all the women organizations must come together or joining ones hands as one for their own cause, and all other matured women from those who had passed their puberty to old and married must, even children and men those who believe in and wish for their other halfs' rights.
   I am here for you too, the squandered son, to bring justice for you as written in the book of old, fear not, be strong, for my Father, your Father, yes Our Father had said about it Who hold my hand.

   The united women can and will even elect people of their choice and win the election to look after them and their homeland.
   They should even bring an end to evil social religious classes which segregate some minority group as untouchable in the society, if they want to enjoy long and lasting respect, equality and freedom, because they who want equality must give equality to all or else their success will not last long.
   There are foolish people who consider some of their own fellow human as untouchable because they have discriminating mind, that cannot bring equality. Therefore, united women should ignore such prejudice so that equality in all ways will be experienced.
   Anyway, from now on, let each and everyone of us know that any living things, except disabled ones, which have five fingers, five toes(no kidding), nose, mouth, eyes, ears, neck, body structure as ourselves, who can breath, talk, can be touch and die is our own fellow human beings and we are equal in the spirit.

   Let me rest from writing this one with a few saying in the form of poem, hope we all can say it out:

   But one thing I will advice you, women! 

   Don't false accuse others nor manipulate men.

   I know your ability so well,

   You can let men fall on your feet,

   But do not do it evilly, not even for evil purpose.

   Come, you who have dreams, 

   Fulfill your dreams,

   The time is right.

   You can shatter family,

   And you can even unite families.

   The making of the world is in your hands,

   As the making of a house is yours.
   The time is ripe, 

   Your time has begun.

   Remember, all those times,

   You are the power behind the scenes.
   Know your power but use it right.

   The time favors you,

   Your dream is before you, 

   It's your own and only yours.

   No one but you can achieve it.

   Don't misuse it nor over use it,

   Blessings upon you.

   You are an independent soul, a unique one,
   Do not let other misuse you as well.

   Your fight is not men but the negative thoughts, 

   Ideas, practices and laws imposed on you,

   Your freedom is in your hands.

   No one will fight for you in your spirit, 

   No one will climb the highest mountain,
   Or, go to the space for you.

   They can be with you, 

   But your freedom is in your hands!

   Your time has come,

   Fear not but be strong,
      Soar high and let your other celebrate with you.
The concern of one is the concern of the other and the Creator.
The happiness of both is the happiness of all.

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My First Romantic Affection: The Girl I Could Not Forget

   Memory is a very important thing. Since the sins of men and the pollution and destruction we cause to nature are great, our memory have turned weak. Thus the current human beings have no good memory as it was in the beginning or compared to the past human.
   I do not have good memory either but I could still remember some of the moments of my past as far as my childhood years. Though I have the memory of two other girls whom I remember as affectionate, I was too young to really know affection that come to exist between opposite orientation of adults. But I began to really know it when I began to have a story with this girl my post is about.

   I do not use the word love because it is not love that combines or attract two souls of opposite orientation, in other words it is not love that create romantic relationship but romantic affection. For, love is not romance or romantic affection. Otherwise I would have called her my first love. But only when love exist, any relationship will go on and on forever, and if it does not exist romantic affection die out soon and the romantic relationship tends to break up as romantic affection tends to have expiry date.
   As we human beings have inborn desires, of which sex desire is the strongest and main driving force, and when that is mixed with satisfaction of one or the other or both, eg satisfaction of the eye to beauty of opposite orientation, it produces romantic affection. And we mistakenly consider romantic affection as love. But if we had no inborn desires, there will be no such thing as romantic affection as well as marriage. Thus it is clear that love is not romantic affection.

   Since we all are born with inborn desires we all seek for a partner. Therefore, it is not inappropriate even if the younger or older, lower or higher, or whichever one of the opposite orientation start the initial. I rather admire it as it takes a courageous leap to start the initial.

   She, my first romantic affection, the star of my post and me were in the same school, class and section in the year 1995 or .96, of which I am not sure. She usually was at the first position in half yearly and final exams but I did not use to get good grade.
   She was fair and beautiful but I did not realize that until I got a letter from her. I don't remember what exactly were written in it but its obviously words of romantic affection which we mistakenly know as love in the past. And I don't remember exactly what words were I wrote in reply to her but it was truly the same kind as her letter. Thus we continue to follow the same practice out of romantic affection.

   One of her letter was sealed with burned lemon or some similar fruit skin to released and wrapped the letter with its aroma, and I was wondering how she did it. I smiled as I write this because those were the times I got the sweetest words from my princess though I don't remember the words anymore and I still can't do the lemon thing.
   I also sent her sweet words which was filled with fragrance powder inside, and I hope it made her feel loved and happy.
   Later, when my kinsfolk and parents know about the latter with fragrance powder, they started to tease me with one of a well known song of a time which would be translated as 'her lover send her powder.' I used to be so annoyed and shy at that as it was my first experience of romantic affection, but I could do nothing as they would not stop teasing me. When I think back about the time it give me an amusing feeling as it was not a harmful tease. After all, she was my girlfriend and I was her boyfriend, and what harm could it bring even if others teased us for that just for fun unless they were attempting to separate us. Maybe we were too young but I don't remember her age anymore if she had ever told me.

   She had a friend of the same class who liked me and expressed her feelings to me too but on those times my affection toward my first girlfriend was so particular. Her friend was fair and beautiful too. According to my knowledge both of them did not break their friendship despite the fact, instead maybe they were okay with it. Though I did not give much attention to her, the story of the three of us went wide.
   My parents know about it too when my elder sister told them what my girlfriend's friend (her name) told it to her. Probably she had told my sister that she wanted me and was ready to be as one of my wives. That have pierced my ears but I liked my girl friend too much that I could not like her too.

   My girlfriend and me keep on sending sweet romantic letters to one another as the news keep on spreading wide without any problem that came toward us. But one day, one of our letter reached the hands of our teacher who teach one of the local language and read it out before all the classmates. Maybe she did that because we were too young but it was annoying. It seemed that the whole school know about that.
   Even the Principal of the school partly scolded and partly instructed my girlfriend in the assembly before the whole students of the school, more than thousands students because she got poor result in the exam. Maybe he did that out of love but I don't think it should be the way. How shameful would it be for my girlfriend who I liked so much.   Though we like one another so much, we had never meet each other outside the school, I don't have the idea at that time either. And I was in the hostel of the school in .95. But it seemed that our relationship lasted till the end of the year.

   The following years we were kept in different sections, and since I was still too young and did not know how to keep on our relationship, we hardly contact to one another anymore. Maybe she was also growing weak or had another mind that she too did not send me letters or maybe she was just like me too. I don't remember where her friend was at that time, it also seemed that I was not concerned much about her. But I'd not disagree if life meet us again.
   When it was about the middle of the year 1997, a civil war between two brothers clans broke out and all the house of institutes had to be closed. My parents small business fell down and we had to moved out of the town, then back to our own home town as my parents business ended.
   After that I had never meet my first girlfriend again though I really wanted to. I still did not grow up from being a smartless ass too, it seemed that it was not a talent given to me.
   A year or two later, when my mom take me back to the town where I meet my first romantic affection, I meet a young old friend who was studying in my old school and told me that my girlfriend was still studying there. She was much junior to us but I wonder how she know the romantic relationship my first girlfriend and me had.
   This friend of mine was very kind to me, maybe she had romantic affection for me too according to the rumors I heard later but she never told me. She even delivered my letter to my girlfriend who I could not forget. But I felt bad for my friend if she had a romantic affection toward me as it could be hard for her to deliver my romantic letter to someone else.

   In the letter I told my romantic affection to meet me near a big banyan in the adjoining village but I never meet her because I did not wait for her as I believe she would not come. But I apologize to her for disbelieving her through this blog.

   I still looked for her in 2003 when life take me back again to that town and even after that. Secretly I searched for her but did not find her because I had never taken information about her family, maybe I've forgotten most of it, and I was not that committed anyway. However, I found one thing in the newspaper, and that was a name exactly as her name with father's name, and it was a positive result for joining regional medical institute. I asked my neighbor who had a house near a location where I thought my first girlfriend resides but she told me she had never heard of her and knew her father.

   Then, after I joined facebook I looked for her in it but did not find her. Maybe she has gotten married or she had been working somewhere without marriage, that's the worst I could think for her as I don't want to think any other worst things for her.

   Her appearance in my memory is growing hazy but my desire to see her for at least one more time could not die. Sometimes, out of desire I still try to see her with my eyes, through my mind but it is like a faint dream and obscure painting. Though I wanted to meet her again in real life, some part of me seems to hold me back as she could have been a successful woman but I remained the same old boy, even lower than that for I could not continue schooling, education according to the world. I even weep at that part and it takes me couples of minutes to finish it.

   But God my Father, your Father, our Father teaches me other lessons through life and His Spirit which I do not boast of but Him, my Father. And that is not boasting but glorifying. He had taught me what is love, true love, and why we fall for someone. Some of it is written here.
   If I had loved her I would have bee faithful for her till date, for love is faithful, and I would have found her, for love never gives up. After all, love have strong faith, and nothing can move it. I was just having a romantic affection toward her that made me miss her, and if my Father had not taught me I would have been fooled and still think romantic affection as love.
   Though sometimes love had accompany my romantic affection toward her I could not say I truly love her because love never die, but my love dies and I did not love her to the end with faithfulness. Anyway, such kind of short termed and incomplete love is never called love.
   Such is love and such is romantic affection, they were, they are and they will continue to be so.


   Thoughts for the Day:

 #Love is a good attitudes and actions toward others.
   Love never divorce,
   Love never give up.

  *# Since love is neither romantic affection nor marriage,
       There will be no more marriage in the new World,
       Every human being who is worthy to enter the new World, The Kingdom of The Holy God will be like His Holy Angels.
        That is the basic reason.

   #*# Love is eternal, Love is boundless,
          Therefore it is a necessary education to receive eternal degree.
           No other education can bestow eternity except love.

   *#*# Since the education which is most popular does not change the world,
            Since it does not establish peace nor erase hatred,
            It is certain that nothing but love is the most important education for all man kind.

   #*#*#   Love does not follow any religion,
                For Love itself is religion.
                God the Father is Love, and we can see it through Jesus,
                Therefore, Jesus Christ is Love.

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